Well my goal was to post this sometime in November, but you see how that went ;)
This was a post I wrote as a guest writer on my friend Laci's blog. She's got some other great guest posts on gratitude and Thanksgiving if you want to check them out!
Gratitude as a Discipline
Sometimes
it’s hard to remember to be thankful. Or
maybe it’s not that we don’t remember, but that we rely too heavily on the
“feeling” of gratitude. Things get hard
and our perspective becomes jaded; we can only see what’s right in front of us
instead of remembering the bigger picture.
We
get a lot of visitors from the States here, mostly on short-term mission
trips. Now, before you get the idea that
we live in impoverished dirt huts, our life in Chile is far from it. Like any other country, it has its rich and
its poor. By U.S. standards, we live in
the lower middle class section of Santiago.
But GDP aside, there are
significant differences in comfort levels and life opportunities available to
the people of our community versus our community in the States.
That
said, we get a lot of… “reflections”, let’s say :) , from our visitors.
“I couldn’t believe how happy
they were, having so little…”
“It really makes me realize
how much opportunity we have in the States…”
“I just can’t believe how
little supplies and how many students the classrooms have…”
“Wait, you guys don’t have
indoor heating?”
And
so on, and so forth :)
I
won’t pretend I haven’t been in their position in the past, or even in my
present during my less-disciplined moments.
But I have learned so much about practicing gratitude
as a discipline instead of waiting for it to come to me as an emotion.
Because
if it is gratitude sparked from prideful or pitying comparison, it just seems
tainted to me…
Like waiting for someone else
to get cancer to realize that you are thankful for your health…
Or being grateful for your
family only when you see the dysfunction or hardships in others’…
Or acknowledging the economic
freedom and opportunities you have only when you read about countries that are
in a worse state…
The
truth is, we are all surrounded by these gifts, we only have to acknowledge them. And then how can gratitude not naturally well
up from that recognition??
So
let’s not wait for gratitude to come to us.
I don’t know about you, but there aren’t many great things in life that
just “come” to me. If I want to be in
shape, I have to work out. If I want to
get better at Spanish, I have to study more and allow people to correct me when
I make mistakes. If I want a good
marriage, I have to be intentional about loving Tracey more than I love myself.
Language
learning is hard for everyone.
None
of these things are natural desires that come easy. Like any other discipline, it is something to
be practiced. But the practice is always
worth the result!
A
few years ago I read One Thousand
Gifts by Ann Voskamp. If you
haven’t read it, I would highly
recommend it. She challenges you to make
an actual, physical list of one thousand things you are thankful for. Obviously, once you get past the obvious
ones, (family, friends, health, etc.) it takes some thinking to get to a
thousand. Which is the point: it teaches
you how to actively observe and acknowledge the gifts in your life. It changes the way you think throughout the
day and your overall level of awareness.
It allows you to recognize and receive new gifts, more than you thought
you had in the first place.
I
started a little journal with a numbered list that I like to use, writing down
a few things each day regardless of how I feel. My sister-in-law gave us a “gratitude jar”
where you write your gifts on post-it notes, stick ‘em in the jar, and then
read them all at the end of the year.
I’m sure there are a million creative ways of doing it, but the point is
to make it a consistent discipline. If
we want to be grateful people, we have to take time to practice! We have to choose to acknowledge and allow
ourselves these gifts that we are often too busy to recognize.
Here’s
to practicing gratitude, not just in November, but in every moment!
